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Post by Sugarpuss on Jul 11, 2007 21:16:08 GMT -5
His loss, Megg! I'm gonna egg his house tonight! Kimmy, don't worry, I've sent my avatar pic to a couple of dating sites. This time next week you'll have a dozen of marriage proposals! No need to thank me.  |
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Post by butterscotchgreer on Jul 12, 2007 23:20:30 GMT -5
okay guys, i need advice!!!
james called me again, and we talked for a lomg time, but that isnt the point i know! i am catholic, and he was born and raised catholic, but he is having a rough time right now with his faith. my family all want to meet him and they say that i should ask him to go to a mass with me this sunday, which is pretty much the only way i can be with him without my parents freaking out about a date. im so nervous about asking him bc he is question his gaith, but he is still catholic.
should i ask him to go to mass with me or not?
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Post by *~Mrs. Cooper ~* on Jul 12, 2007 23:31:26 GMT -5
Well, to me faith is the solid ground on a relationship so if he's slipping away from God then I'd say I wouldn't get involved but that's just me; I guess I'm old fashioned and straight laced that way, lol. But dating is a huge thing and you don't want to get involved with the wrong people; so I'd say pray about it and have your parents meet him; mention it to him and if he says no then I think I'd draw back a little. Again, that's just my advice, but I hope things work out for you, sis! |
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Post by butterscotchgreer on Jul 12, 2007 23:46:34 GMT -5
well its sort of hard to explain. actually he isnt drifting at all away from god! he still is a firm believer, but he is just questioning some of the things in our faith right now thats all. he is a very sweet and understanding person though. i dont know why im so nervous to ask him. i just dont want to hear the word no i guess. " i dont think i can take that kind of rejection"-back to the future heehee!
thanx for the advice kim, im going to think and pray a lot on it.
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Post by Ajax on Jul 13, 2007 0:11:39 GMT -5
My opinion is that if you took him to a mass that he might think you are trying to push him into being religious again. I don't know what to tell you, I'm an agnostic (I know most of you will read that as ATHEIST, but please, look it up and before you assume, ask me about MY beliefs.) and to me, it's not that big of a deal if he believes in God or Allah or Vishnu, or none of those, or all of those, just as long as you do feel like you love each other. Besides, it is always nice to have some sort of difference between the two of you, it keeps things interesting. But, that's just my two cents, but please don't get in an uproar over this, because usually every time I put in my "religious" two cents people hate me forever because I just happen to have a different opinion than what is accepted. Thank you  |
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Post by butterscotchgreer on Jul 13, 2007 0:18:50 GMT -5
oh meg i dont get mad at anyone's opinions i respect that everyone has a different opinion. thank you for your advice
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Post by Sugarpuss on Jul 13, 2007 2:17:04 GMT -5
You could just mention you're going and ask if he also is attending. That way you'll bring it up and you won't have to be so nervous. Just take it from there, if he's a nice guy things will fall into place by themselves.
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Post by butterscotchgreer on Jul 13, 2007 18:39:02 GMT -5
st. mary's isnt his parish though, do you think that will really work? if you do than i could definitely do that. yes he is a very sweet guy i think! are you kidding hes almost at the height of gary! heehee.
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Post by butterscotchgreer on Jul 13, 2007 19:24:49 GMT -5
guys i somehow did it!!!!! i called him up and asked him, i actually dont know how i did it though i kinda went silent for a second or so. but he said he would go with me!!!!! yayyyyy!!!!!!
im sorta shocked. heehee!
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Post by coopsgirl on Jul 13, 2007 20:29:45 GMT -5
That's great Theresa!! Sometimes you gotta be the one to ask them. I haven't dated a ton but a couple of the guys I've gone out with I had to ask them out b/c they couldn't work up the nerve to ask me. It is a little scary but if you don't do it then you might regret it later.
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Post by butterscotchgreer on Jul 13, 2007 20:37:31 GMT -5
i know! its a big step for me angie!! i am always so shy around guys, and am always afrais to go introduce myself to them. my mother sometimes calls me a wimp bc i know as well as her that she would have gone up to them with no problem at my age. she isnt afraid of anything i tell you. heehee!
now i just have to explain some things to him bc my parents are real anal about boys, esp around me. i hope he understands and doesnt freak out. now im nervous again. oy vey!
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Post by Ajax on Jul 13, 2007 22:13:30 GMT -5
I think when my parents and grandparents were younger that love was an easier thing. That it wasn't so hard to approach people. I think maybe it was because if you didn't get married and have kids, you were a failure, especially with my grandparents generation. Also, what made me think that was one quote from "Operation Petticoat." I don't know if any of you have seen it, but the women from the Army that they men rescued are talking and the one is worried about finding her true love and the other says to her, "My mother always told me that one day I would turn the corner and I would find the right man. Well, I've been turning corners for 35 years and he still hasn't shown up!" It's like love was easy for her parents, but gradually, over time, it just became harder and harder. I do think that people don't take it the same way anymore. I can probably relate to that, since, every day I tell my co-workers I love them. I really do, there are so few of us there that we are like a family. There has to be about 14 employees in all at Arby's, and we're like a little family that's spread all out and get to see each other off and on. But, since I don't love my co-workers like I would love someone I am romantically interested in, I'm sure it would just be easier to say, "I love you" to anyone at all just because of how easily it comes at work. I'm painfully shy around guys. I mean, come on, it's been nearly three years and I still haven't said anything to Seth, yet sometimes it seems like he's told me a lot of the time, just not coming right out and saying it. I guess you could say I have a mix CD that says it for him. "I broke into your house last night and left a note at your bedside. I'm far too shy to speak to you at school. You leave me numb and I'm not sure why. I find it easier to sit and stare than push my limbs out towards you right there. My heart is bursting in your perfect eyes, as blue as oceans and as pure as skies. I struggle for the words and then give up..." In other news. James is on the mend. He hit a deer last week with his car and hasn't been able to go anywhere for awhile. So, I forgive him for not making any plans or anything like that lol. I suppose I could find my way over the the antiques mall one day, after finding out what day and what time he goes, and maybe "bump" into him there OH I'M SO SCHEMING! |
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Post by butterscotchgreer on Jul 13, 2007 22:28:01 GMT -5
heehee meg you are scheming!! but thats okay!!!
i have seen operation petticoat its one of my grandmama's a my favs cary grant movies. that line is said by the blonde nurse thaqt gets with tony curtis at the end right? i think thats what i remember..... its such a cute and funny movie isnt it?
loverly not by the way, but i dont know where he lives so i cant break into his house and leave a note. heehee! i dont think i would do that anyway, but we all have our ways dont we meg?
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Post by *~Mrs. Cooper ~* on Jul 13, 2007 22:55:34 GMT -5
*Throws head back and laughs like a nasty rich woman*
Oh, that Jimmy slays me. He's such a clumsy man! It was that deer's fault; those hideous creatures are out to get us all; I'm sure of it. I saw it on the Beaver Channel last week. Let Jimmy know he'll get plenty from those deer; those poor suckers won't know what hit them-- except a beat up old ford.
Get them for everything they're worth, Jimmy. Their little'uns won't be going to headlight college anytime soon! --Hawwhawwhawwwwww *walks away hacking on cigarette smoke*
...I am so bored right now.
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Post by Miss Retro on Aug 14, 2007 17:02:43 GMT -5
wow what an interesting thread!!!! LOL  |
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